How to Ask the Right Questions Without Offending Her

Do Not Be Too Cheeky

Do Not Be Too Cheeky

First dates can be nerve-wracking no matter how many times you’ve been on one before. Hell, sometimes even the second and third dates can make you anxious. You’re still in that occasionally-awkward getting to know each other face and you’re still asking a lot of questions. Unfortunately for men, women can be kind of guarded and getting them to answer the questions you’re dying to have answers to can be next to impossible. Ask a question the wrong way and she’ll go into defense mode and close off all of her personality to you. Your goal is to get to know her, not push her away. You still need to make sure you know the real her so you can judge whether or not the relationship is going to last, so you need to know how to ask the right questions in the right ways.

About Her Relationship History

This is a tough road to walk with any woman, because it’s usually the one thing that she doesn’t want to talk about it. If you can get her to talk about whether or not her last relationship was ended by her or her ex, it’ll give you a basis to start forming carefully-worded questions around. The key is to not dig for information and to instead to ask a question here and there. If she talks about something that annoys her, ask if that was a contributing factor to the last breakup. It’ll be seen as a casual question rather than probing and she’s more likely to answer it. When it comes to questions about her past relationships, you have to work any questions you might have into conversations about other things so she doesn’t really see it as an interrogation about what she might view as her past mistakes.

About What She Does for a Living

Avoid Embarrassing Questions

Avoid Embarrassing Questions

This one’s obvious. You don’t want a woman grilling you about what you do for a living and especially not how much you make. It’s healthy to ask her what she does and if she enjoys it, but it’s probably better to let that topic come up naturally in conversation instead of asking right off the bat about it. If the conversation progresses through your date, it will inevitably come up inadvertently. Maybe she’ll mention a hard day at work on a second or third date and you’ll finally have your opportunity to ask her what it was that she did, again.
If she has a career that you weren’t expecting her to have or one that you don’t have a lot of experience with, don’t judge her for it and if she doesn’t seem to be comfortable talking about it after mentioning it once, don’t push the topic. All that’s going to do is make her not want to talk to you anymore, least of all about things like that which, let’s be real, you need to know if you want the relationship to go anywhere. Don’t ask about how much she makes at her job either. Let’s face it, that’s a sore spot for everyone at one point or another, and you don’t want to push her away with overly invasive questions.

About What She Wants out of the Relationship

Find Out If You Both Want The Same From The Relationship

Find Out If You Both Want The Same From The Relationship

Finding this out is crucial to whether or not your relationship is going to work, right? It’s true that this is something the two of you need to discuss no matter if you risk offending her or not, but there are ways to get around it without making it seem like you’re interrogating her about her future with you. Similar to asking about her past relationships, you’ll see opportunities to ask about where she sees your relationship going pop up in normal conversation. Besides, this is something that doesn’t need discussed until quite a few dates into your relationship, since you don’t want to worry about getting too serious too fast. If she doesn’t want to talk about what she wants out of a relationship (or on the flipside, if she wants to talk about it and it’s completely different from what you want) things probably aren’t going to work out.

Using Technology to Take Notes

Take Better Notes With A Technological Device

Take Better Notes With A Technological Device

For students with learning disabilities or other conditions such as ADHD, the fast-paced environment of lecture classes can be a death sentence. It’s not fair to impair someone just because of this difficulty, and luckily with improvements in technology, there are becoming more and more opportunities for everyone to keep up in class, not just the kids who can take notes at the speed of light. Most of these options are free, too, and come along with technology that you likely already possess. If you don’t, then it’s definitely worth the investment if it’ll help you achieve a better future.

When to Use It

If You Need It.. Use It!

If You Need It.. Use It!

It’s best to only use technology to do your notes when you need it, as sometimes it can keep you from retaining information as well as you would if you hand-wrote your notes. If you have classes that are lecture-based and move too quickly for you to keep up, though, then that’s when technology is going to give you just the boost you need to keep up in class. Be sure to explain the situation to your teacher beforehand, as some don’t appreciate technology being out in class. Any teacher will be happy to agree, though, if it means you’ll be able to get better grades this way.

Programs to Use

Use Garage Band To Record Lectures

Use Garage Band To Record Lectures

If you run on Mac products, taking notes digitally is going to be a lot easier for you. For instance, you can use programs like Garage Band to record lectures if you need to go back and listen to the class again. The sound quality is actually surprisingly high, and you can even angle the sound so that it picks up the teacher’s voice instead of external noises. This noise reduction software can help those with ADHD to focus more on the actual lecture and not everything else happening. Another great program to use on any Mac or tablet is SoundNote. This program allows you to record any lecture and take notes at the same time, which can be a lifesaver. An actual product to use during class is the Pulse SmartPen. This unique pen combines recorded lectures with handwritten notes, which can be used in many ways. You can try to take as many notes as you can while the pen records the audio, or you can make it easier on yourself by trying to pick out the main points to write down while your pen picks up the rest of the lecture for you.

Printing and Studying

Use Technology In Your Favor

Use Technology In Your Favor

A lot of teachers lecture off of slide shows, which they’ll happily provide to any students who ask. If not, then you can use the notes you took while listening, combine them with those that you took upon listening again, and make a study guide from that. The best way to study is to listen to the lecture as many times as you need to, focus on any study guides you’re given, and then make flashcards from there. It’ll help your retention significantly, and you’re sure to get better grades on your next test. There are plenty of other options, too, of these don’t work for you. Just keep your head up and stay confident – you’ll find the perfect note taking technique in time, and technology is well on its way to making equal learning a possibility for everyone regardless of what sort of disabilities they may have.

3 Sale Ideas That Are Worn Out

Keep Your Customers Coming Back

Keep Your Customers Coming Back

Driving customers through your front doors and maintaining a healthy volume of sales are two things that are vital for keeping your retail business afloat. If you’ve ever dealt with the experience of a slow season, you know that it can be difficult to keep people coming back to your establishment to make purchases regularly. To that end, you’ve also probably experimented with different kinds of sales throughout the year in order to encourage customers to come and spend money with you. While having a sale is a tried and true method for attracting customers, you should also recognize that there are some sale ideas which simply aren’t worth your time.

How Can You Stand Out During Black Friday?

Black Friday Is A Great Business Opportunity

Black Friday Is A Great Business Opportunity

First, it seemed like only a few stores were running special sales on the day after Thanksgiving, otherwise known as Black Friday. Then the popularity of the day as an event exploded, and we’ve seen a huge growth in the number of Black Friday sales over the past few years. Why should you even consider joining the fray? The fact is, most people will be flocking to big box stores and brand name outlets on Black Friday, searching for deals on big ticket items like televisions and designer clothing. Even if your store is popular in your local area, what are the chances that you’ll be able to attract enough people to make the extra labor costs worthwhile? You might spend weeks prepping for your Black Friday sale, bringing in your best clerks to work early and stay late, only to find that you never surpass a trickle of customers the whole day. Stick to occasions that are easier to leverage for attracting large numbers of people, but skip Black Friday to avoid wasting your time.

Raffles Cost You More Than They Make

Raffles Are Becoming  Expensive

Raffles Are Becoming Expensive

Offering raffle tickets after patrons of your business spend a certain dollar amount, and then holding a drawing for big prizes at the end of the month, used to be quite a popular method for getting people in the front door. However, these are no longer a winning proposition, and you could quickly find yourself losing time and money to maintaining your raffle system. If you’ve relied on this method a lot, or if your prizes are simply gift cards to your own store or unimpressive merchandise, you’ll quickly find that people simply stop coming to your store and spending money to earn tickets. Most people won’t even show up if you hold a big raffle drawing at the end of the month, and may require you to call them in order to inform them of winning something. When the whole point of an event is to keep people in your store and spending money, what good is a contest that doesn’t even get people excited?

Free Gift Bags Are a Losing Proposition

It’s a tactic used by every cosmetics booth in the mall ever: spend some arbitrary dollar amount, and receive a gift bag full of goodies as a thank-you for your purchase. While it seems like a cute idea and might have worked in your favor in the past, assembling these bags is likely costing you more money than it’s making you. And what happens when your promotion ends and you’re still left with a number of unsold bags? You can’t stick a price tag on them and put them out on the floor; your customers will recognize them as the same items you were trying to give away for free! Stick to customer loyalty cards that offer discounts instead of trying to bribe your customers into making purchases.

Hot Yoga: What’s the Deal?

Try Hot Yoga

Try Hot Yoga

There are tons of diet and fitness trends that come and go promising to make your body into a more pleasing shape, but do any of them really work? There seems to be some sort of science behind them, yet somehow they stay fads for a reason. One of these is hot yoga, but the thing is, it seems to be sticking around for quite a while. So what’s the deal with it? If you’ve ever thought about doing hot yoga it’s important to know what you’re getting into. It’s way more than yoga on a hot summer day, that’s for sure.

Why Hot?

As with most yoga things, there’s a spiritual and somehow oddly medical reason to do yoga in such a hot room. The spiritually medical reasoning behind it all is that the sweat is like a highway for the toxins that your body collects to get the hell out. How do those toxins get there? Well they sneak their way in by food, drink, or unhealthy habits. If this sounds like a bit of bull, that’s because it is. A majority of what comes out of the body is just sweat. Sweat cools you down and gets rid of some water weight. Besides that the 100 degree room is accredited to making the body more flexible. Again, this isn’t something that has been proved.

The Dangers

You Must Take All The Necessary Precautions

You Must Take All The Necessary Precautions

The dangers of doing yoga in such a hot room is obvious. You’re doing a moderately difficult exercise in a place that’s way too warm. Heat stroke is almost guaranteed if you aren’t careful. Taking plenty of water and stopping when things get to be too much will help. But doing yoga in a normal setting can be pretty helpful too…just saying.

The Benefits

So now that we’ve talked about all of the scary stuff we can highlight what the benefits are. There’s nothing saying that bikram, or hot, yoga is lying. It’s just taking a healthy activity and replicating India where it all began. If you don’t exercise regularly then doing this type of workout will be good for you because yoga is good for you. It’s moderate, easily modified, and good for your overall body. But if you already workout fairly often this can help your flexibility and posture for the other things that you do. Don’t expect a huge jump in your physique, though.

The Hype

You Decide If This Is For You

You Decide If This Is For You

Why does all of this add up to some sort of hype? Everyone wants to get all spiritual and feel like they’ve tapped some secret to the body’s mystery when they start to get in touch with themselves. The people that do this, sometimes referred to as hippies or hipsters, don’t always know what they’re talking about and will spew the same information about toxins to anyone who will listen. Yes, it’s good to get the sweat pouring from your body and workout, but beware of who you listen to when it comes to exercise fads.

Should You Do It?

If you want to do hot yoga then do it purely for the physical aspect. There’s nothing religious about this that will rid your body of evil toxins. Some people do say that they feel yoga is spiritual thanks to the calmness and self-discovery they encounter. But that’s pretty rare for most people. Doing hot yoga to get your sweat going and to get in shape can definitely work for you, but so can Pilates, football, or a whole list of physical activities that might suit your lifestyle better. Try not to follow the fad, follow something that you really think will help you get in shape and stay there.

Antiquing on a Budget

Old Handwork Wooden Items

Old Handwork Wooden Items

Nothing really adds that extra touch of class to a home like a few pieces of gorgeous old furniture. The craftsmanship is generally miles beyond the low-quality junk manufactured these days, and a good piece will give your space real uniqueness and originality. Still, the prices can sometimes deter hopeful buyers from getting into the world of antiques – that dinner table has gorgeously carved legs, sure, but IKEA has tables on sale for fifty bucks.


Luckily, with a bit of work and ingenuity, you can manage to have gorgeous pieces in your home without having to break the bank.

Watch Where You Buy

These days, collectors of all types tend to turn to the internet for their searching needs. Indeed, the internet is an essential tool for anyone looking to buy low-priced antique pieces. However, due to the nature of your purchase, you’ll want to stick to certain sites. It’s absolutely vital that you’re able to drive to and inspect your purchase in-person, especially for large pieces like tables, chairs, cabinets, and so on. Big pieces like these are prohibitively expensive to ship, and should be inspected personally for wear, tear, stability, and, if it concerns you, authenticity. You’ll be able to make an educated decision this way on whether to buy as priced, whether to haggle it down, or whether you should pass the offer by.

Old Furniture And Collectibles

Old Furniture And Collectibles

In the offline world, your purchases shouldn’t stop at your local antique shop or thrift store. Things like garage sales can be a place to really test your luck on finding some gems, but you should exercise the same caution and careful inspection as you would when buying online. Both online and off, when buying from an individual who’s not an educated antique aficionado, you may run into prices that are inflated far higher than the piece is actually worth. Someone under the impression that their grandfather’s antique cuckoo clock was carried over from Germany on a sailboat in the 19th century is not easily convinced to price the piece fairly, even when a more careful and educated eye indicates that it’s a cheap tourist souvenir from the 1960s.

Watch What You’re Buying

Make Sure Of Its High Quality

Make Sure Its High Quality

Of course, anyone interested in older collectibles must sometimes accept that a piece is not in peak condition. However, with a bit of work and studying on your end, you can snap up damaged pieces on the cheap, and work to restore them yourself for astronomical savings. While online guides can provide a solid basis of knowledge, looking for professional local courses in your area is best to truly get expert guidance on the subject.


As a warning: make no mistake, restoration is not an easy art form. It’s one thing to stitch down a loose covering on a vintage armchair, and entirely another to restore the luster to a complicated mosaic piece on the glasswork of a cabinet. Know your limits, and know when to defer to a professional art restorer. Paying them a fair wage for their services is far preferable to irreparably damaging a priceless antique with amateur restoration work.